02.29.12 To Protect and Defend…

How one learns/is trained to to do this…

The actions and behaviors one does to, protect…

Who is allowed to engage in them.

How the masculine energy protects…how  the world is set up in accordance with that concept of aggression, control and domination, the use of a certain kind of power structure.

How the feminine energy protects, so differently, concerned with something else altogether…

What you must do, if you are  a child alone to protect self, if you are woman alone to protect self…What you must do, if you are of color or otherwise othered, to protect self.

How society does not have space for this–you, your surival–if what you need is not in line with majority beliefs and prejudices…

Who then, is considered a person, with the right to “Life, liberty, and happiness?”

Who then, is not?

What this says about who a person is, who we are as a culture…What this says about who and what we value, how we treat each other. What this says about our suvival as  a species.

Why this is so important.

02.28.12 Space

The space between what a person says and what a person actually does…

The space between who someone says one is, who someone is, actually…

The space between who one is now, who one could become…whether that person is willing to do that work, whether that person is not…

The necessity of discernment, to see this. To understand what it means…for that person, for yourself. For your knowing of them

02.27.12 Sight, again

How someone sees you.

Whether someone can see who you truly are and what you need…or if that person can only see what he/she desires you to be…

Who you must become then, in fitted matching response. If you want that person in your life.

And if you cannot do this–meet that person’s expectations, twist yourself into the unnatural shape of becoming what that person needs from you, what that person sees you as. What you are not…

How that changes everything, so much.

02.26.12 What is Sacred?

What is sacred to you? he asks today.

And I am thinking how for some it is people. For others, a way of living, being and treating people–in loving kindness, in treating others as one would want to be treated. For others, still, it is only things of this world, whether intangible or tangible: ideas, work, money, art, objects…

And I am thinking, too, how do you treat yourself as something sacred–to be valued, loved, treasured and respected?

I am thinking how I used to try to change myself to have love from others, to be what they wanted and needed. How I have been understanding, these past few years,  it is about knowing/understanding/loving/being who you are–owning that…and surrounding yourself with people who love and respect that. People who respect and love you for you–who you are, what you need, what you can give…the life you are creating.  People who respect why that is necessary for you to be and live, respect the sacred value you place on your life.

And love you for this.

02.25.12 Honor

The necessity of honoring an individual’s experience, thoughts, feelings…how so often others will tell you that you should or should not feel a certain way without any understanding of you who are…your life, your family, your history, your culture, your health; your experience of being–body, mind and spirit–in this world.

How they will judge and condemn without seeing, without understanding…

The importance of compassion, love, understanding, and respect rather than judgement and violence. To treat “others as one would want to be treated,” if this was your life, instead.

Or as the same book says elsewhere, too, “Judge not, lest you be judged in return,” and “He who is without sin cast the first stone,” etc., etc…

02.23.12 Safe People

the people you draw into your life, to accompany you on this journey…

whether they look after your best interests, want to build you up, help you be your best, most positive self…the person you are supposed to become…

or if their only desire is to use you, to drag you down, to their level…if they only want you to become like them…out of jealousy, out of spite. to make themselves feel better…

the necessity of discernment…to see who is safe, who to allow into your life, your world, your people, your home, your family.

02.20.12 Balance, Again

the importance of the act of acknowledgement, of articulation. admitting when one has fallen short…

the importance of compassion, kindness, forgiveness…

what is the relationship to boundaries and limits, the learning from past mistakes to not repeat them, to not allow the energies and situations that are toxic or destructive to return, even when one has forgiven, one is wanting to show compassion, kindness…

the necessity to protect self. the desire to be open, give. the attainment of the balance.